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my friend and i live in the US we are orthodox and have friends from Israel that are not orthodox. T both of us are not well we both survive cancer. They don't get the hint that we can not host them on the high holidays. They always leave Israel before the high holidays and come here. How can we tell them nicely that they can not just show up and stay with us? We don't want to insult anybody. they are not religious.and we go to shule during the holidays. toda and Shana Tova. Ora
תשובה
To the questioner,
You are correct - you should try your best not to embarrass your friend ; but at the same time you need to inform them of your situation.
You know your friends the best, so say it in the best way for them.
You should probably say "i just want to let you know that our schedule is different on Rosh Hashana than the rest of the year; we are in shul almost the whole day (this is not embarrassing for them because there are many secular Jews who go to shul on Rosh Hashana) and it maybe better for you to work out an easier schedule for you. You are certainly welcome by our house on other days"
Best wishes for Hatzlacha
Hidabroot
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